Using your feelings as your guide is the most direct indicator of
whether or not you are being peace and happiness. Our feelings are a
foolproof guidance system, letting us know if we are experiencing
heaven or hell, love or fear, well being or disease. This does not
mean we are good people if we have "positive" feelings and bad people
if we have "negative" feelings. The truth of who we are is always
that we are expressions of God, Source Energy made manifest. We are
made in the image of the creator and just because we forget that, it
doesn't mean it is not true! Quantum physics has now demonstrated
what ancient wisdom has taught through all time, we are energy.
Another way of expressing this idea is that we are spiritual beings
having a human experience.
Think of your body as an instrument, and just as musical instruments
come in all sizes, shapes, and colors, so does our human instrument.
All instruments have a wide range of sounds, some on key and some
off. It is the same with people. When our instrument is being played
with the greatest ease and flow, we are vibrating at a frequency of
well being, and our sound is a joy to hear. Our feelings let us know
when we are in tune or out of tune. When a musical instrument is out
of tune, it is adjusted, and while some time might be spent on
the "story" of why the instrument is out of tune, the major focus is
on the sound and returning to being a finely tuned instrument. It
seems as if human beings spend much more time on the "story" of why
their instrument is out of tune than simply doing a "tune-up."
Have you noticed that when someone asks you how you're feeling, or
you ask others how they are feeling, a usual response is a detailed
explanation of what is going on in their lives, often a retelling of
stories long over, dramas, some tales of woe that may actually have
been resolved? Since our experience is shaped through the law of
attraction, the more we repeat, retell, reactivate stories of woe,
the more we use them as the seeds of our future and the fruits of our
present. Another common response is when people say they are fine,
when their inner experience is one of anxiety and dismay. In terms of
the law of attraction, we attract according to our energetic
vibration, and if there is a discrepancy between our words and our
vibration, vibration wins and is the attracting magnet.
You maybe thinking, "Sure, sure, sure this is easy to talk about but
my feelings are real." Precisely - your feelings are real. It is the
meaning that you give to them, the stories that you tell and believe
that is putting the cart before the horse. The cart is the story, and
since we are meaning-making machines, we make up our stories based on
the patterns of thought and stories we have learned from our parents,
teachers, and the collective consciousness of the planet. We can make
up new stories in each and every moment. Our feelings, which never
lie, tell us in the moment how we are vibrating.
When you are suffering, in hell, feeling anxious, frustrated, angry,
impatient, hopeless, or helpless, your feelings, the sensations you
feel in your body, are simply letting you know you are out of tune.
Not whether you are good or bad or worthy or unworthy - these are
human interpretations, stories you are making up! It is, therefore,
very important to feel your feelings, whatever they are, and once you
feel them, I repeat ONCE you feel them, use them as a springboard to
tune your instrument. There is no need to judge yourself if you have
what is called a "negative" feeling. It is simply a reminder that you
are out of tune. Positive feelings are indicators that you are finely
tuned. Simply put, we are either in flow with Source Energy
(instruments of love) or out of connection with Source Energy (off-
key, off-center, out of tune). Which would you rather be? Use your
feelings as your guide and peace and happiness as the point of view
in the stories you create, and notice your heart song vibrating
through you. Not only does this enhance a personal experience of well
being, it has a direct impact on our contribution to the collective
consciousness of the world. So let your feelings be your guide.
HOW TO DO IT
DAY 1: Notice what you are feeling. Check in with yourself once an
hour. What are you experiencing? What sensations are you feeling in
your body? Remember this is not what you are telling yourself about
what you are feeling, simply what you are feeling. "I feel
comfortable in my body, my breathing is full and deep, I have a smile
on my face, I feel a tightness in my chest, there is a dull pain in
my the lower right side of my back."
Today is your day to become aware of how your body feels. Any time
you notice tension in your body, breathe into that part of your body
and allow the tension to be released into the earth as you exhale.
DAY 2: Notice what you are feeling regarding your emotions. Check in
with yourself once an hour. Are you calm, content, joyful,
overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or scared? Notice what you feel and
simply feel the feeling.
DAY 3: Allow your feelings to be your guide, and when you are off-
center, out of tune, experiencing hell, use the following technique:
a.. Acknowledge what you are feeling in the moment (I am feeling
frustrated and overwhelmed, with sweaty palms and tension in my
stomach).
a.. Choose what you would prefer to be feeling (I choose to feel
calm and focused, comfortable in my body).
b.. For thirty seconds, imagine something that evokes the feeling
you want to feel ("It's 3:00 P.M. I am lounging on a comfortable
beach chair on the beach in East Hampton. I am watching the gentle
flow of the waves, feeling the sun-drenched breeze on my body.") It
is usually easier to imagine a scene unrelated to the content of what
is causing your agitation. The purpose of this exercise is to develop
your ability to change your vibration at the point of your greatest
power - NOW. Continue on with your life (cooking dinner, paying your
bills, taking a bath, driving to work, and so forth).
DAY 4: Allow your feelings to be your guide, and when you are off-
center, out of tune, experiencing hell, use the following technique:
a.. Acknowledge what you are feeling in the moment (angry, tension
in my temples, a frown on my face, my heart is pounding in my chest).
b.. Choose what you would prefer to be feeling (calm, my heart
beating gently, a smile on my face, at ease, confident).
c.. Ask yourself what you believe about the current situation that
is creating the feeling you are having ("I am afraid I'm not going to
get to my job interview on time, and I will screw up getting this new
job before I even get there," or "I believe I am helpless in dealing
with my health problems," or "I believe I am never going to be in a
satisfying relationship, " and so forth).
d.. Make up a belief that supports the way you want to feel and
focus your attention on your new belief (I have a great job
interview, I deserve having the job of my dreams. I have support and
excellent care in experiencing well being in my life. I am in a
loving marriage.")
e.. Continue with your day.
DAY 5: During the day, whenever you notice you are feeling like a
victim or that you are a victimizer, make up a new story about the
circumstances you are in. For example, try a story in which you are a
finely-tuned instrument and everything is perfect the way it is. I
was recently feeling like a victim and plotting revenge about
something going on in my home. I noticed I had a desire to tell
others the drama. So I vented to a friend, who did not get seduced by
the story, and once I did that, I remembered that continued focus on
the story was simply that, continued focus on the story. I asked
myself, "What would love do here?" I kept being pulled back in my
mind to the drama, and I kept asking, "What would Love do here?"
Within moments I felt calmer and thought, "We all did the best we
could do."
Later on, as I was sitting quietly, I had memories of similar
circumstances in my life, and I was tempted to use them to get back
into the drama. Instead I asked, "What would love do here?" And I
followed the advice I heard from my still small voice. I was loving,
in the tone of my voice and in my thoughts. Within a few hours I had
moved through this experience and had also let go of past baggage. I
let my feelings be my guide, and when my feelings indicated I was off-
key, I did a tune-up. I needed many tune-ups during those hours, so I
got them! During the next two days. I was repeatedly tempted to tell
the story about what had happened and what I had learned. I knew the
temptation was more about habit than anything else and there was no
need to tell the story, only to express my love.
DAY 6: Create your own set of procedures to use when you need a tune-
up. What are operating instructions you can follow? Put these
instructions in a place where you can see them and then use them.
Every time you use them, give yourself a pat on the back. Know you
are creating a new pattern, one that includes regular check-ups and
maintenance to keep your instrument finely tuned. Update your
operating instructions as necessary.
DAY 7: Write your reflections of using your feelings as your guide.
a.. What did you learn?
b.. How can you use what you learned so that peace and happiness is
the dominant tune you sing?